Billie Eilish is on hot search again. This time it was not because of her music, nor because she and her brother hand in hand to win awards and break records.
It's because of a very ordinary, simple and everyday photo--
In the photo, Billie, who was wearing suspenders and loose shorts and stepping on slippers, caused a lot of ridicule from netizens——
"Billie is not Bad Guy now, she is Fat Guy."
"In just ten months, Billie has the figure of a 30-year-old alcoholic aunt."
Not only that, some people even made a lot of emojis to humiliate her.
But we know that Billie has never been famous for her S-curve hot girl figure. She stands firm in the fashion circle by her oversize outfit and various anti-gender styles.
At the same time, as a musical genius, when Billie was humiliated, what she chose was—
I changed hands and posted an Instagram, holding the B-list award, and speaking by strength.
It can be seen that Billie has his own set of counterattack black fans; and this kind of female self-confidence is what Dr.V wants to talk to everyone today——
When women are criticized, how can they fight back?
Humiliating the body, or humiliating women?
While foreign netizens are humiliating Billie, domestic netizens also misappropriated "thin is standard" to our female celebrities.
Song Qian won the golden eagle goddess, and her dress was gorgeous and weighed 30 kilograms, but she couldn't match the word "showing fat" to the eye.
Zhao Liying came back after childbirth and had muscles in her arms. She was obviously well maintained, but she was ridiculed as King Kong Barbie.
In the first two days, #倪妮套骨# and #金惠美身身# were on the hot search at the same time. The reason is that Ni Ni is skinny, but Jin Huimei is not only skinny, but also sexy enough for her breasts and buttocks.
Obesity is a sin, thin bones are worthy of pursuit, and celebrities are treated like this. What about ordinary women?
Not long ago, Dr. V talked about the BM style with everyone, relying on small size and flaunting consumer freedom, kidnapping women's aesthetics.
But looking at the entire online environment, the beauty on Instagram and Weibo has delicate skin, bumpy figure, and flawless photos. These have already impacted countless girls’ external perceptions-
It is perfect to have girl group legs, ant waist, and butterfly back. Then, I dare not wear a sling in summer, dare not send a good photo, and even hesitated for a long time for milk tea with more than 400 calories. …
After Shanghai celebrities fight for a single thing and become a joke on the Internet, there are celebrities who fight back righteously:
"We are thin, big breasts, long legs, and good shape."
You see, a social thinking that should have focused on exploring the illusion of extravagance and vanity stimulated by consumerism has evolved into a bodily curse.
Numerous topics about women’s bodies made Dr. V unable to help thinking about how many of the current "beauty standards" are really needed by women, and what is the purpose of creating these "beauty standards"?
Spending money, or spending confidence?
Have you noticed that the advertising models and the anchors of the goods are all bright and beautiful——
What they play is more like a savior. Only they can pull you out of the dilemma of not being fashionable, not beautiful enough, and not skinny enough, and you are the "ugly duckling" that needs to be rescued.
A certain female entrepreneur’s online store was questioned by countless netizens on Xiaohongshu: Are all 162-168 models, the heaviest 95 kg models, really referential?
Of course not. The desired effect is to control your consumption and harvest your confidence.
Not only is this kind of chaos in the country, but Russian commercials also play this kind of routine——
Advertisements for lotion and hair care often start with portraying a miserable woman; she is plagued by various beauty problems, which she cannot deal with alone and needs someone to save her.
Bruce Bueno talks about how to control a region in the Dictator’s Handbook-
Monopolize demand, stimulate demand, and control demand.
This rule can also perfectly explain the consumerist society’s control of women. It relies on suppressing women’s self-confidence to stimulate consumption. So women are constantly falling into the misunderstanding of self-loathing in the stimulation of the consumer society, and at the same time, they are eager to be "rescued". .
Facing the routine of consumerism, in the final analysis, you must understand that your beauty has never been defined by the "beauty standards" in the market. Whether you need to be saved is not the final decision of consumerism——
Instead, you have the final say.
The well-known American senator and female fighter Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez's speech a few days ago has sparked new resonance on major social media. She bravely challenged the humiliation:
"My parents raised me not to humiliate me."
Below the relevant Weibo, we can really feel the voice of women——
"Recently, I'm pretending to be confident. I hope that by pretending to be truly confident."
"Men's self-confidence is given by us, and women's self-confidence is given by ourselves."
It is not difficult to find that everyone has realized the importance of self-confidence to break the predicament. Then again, how should we become a true "confident beauty"?
It’s really not difficult to be a confident beauty
The environment around us always seems to tell us that beauty can only be innate, otherwise changes can only be made with the help of plastic surgery, but sometimes the importance of atmosphere is even higher than the five senses and the body itself.
Gold high silver, low skull top, single eyelid, in fact, does not meet the definition of traditional beauty.
But the stretched eyebrows and smile, smiling like they were instantly lit by sunlight, are particularly contagious.
Jike Junyi and Hua Sha have dark skin and are not slender enough.
But these two points have not become their physical shackles. Mention European and American beauties, they are always on the list.
As you all know, the beauty template in the entertainment industry is actually very harsh. Why can they become recognized beauties while they are obviously not dominant in appearance? In fact, in the final analysis, beauties can be cultivated—
For example, Zhong Chuxi used to be criticized for being too masculine in his facial features, but the advantage of heroism is that it fits the aesthetic orientation of Hong Kong style well. If the styling can be closer to your own suitable style, the heroic face can actually be softened.
So we often see Zhong Chuxi roll up her woolen rolls, put on big red lips, and then wear some polka dots and floral clothes to show her retro and elegant side. Now as long as there is a new picture, it will be praised as a "Hong Kong Style Beauty".
Perhaps, female stars are not born to be female stars. In creating the aura of beauty, they are actually accepting their own personality, and finally trying to use it to form their own unique style.
Dr. V does not mean that you have to become a female celebrity, but that if you remove the facial features and figure, ordinary people will become beautiful. It may only require a little change——
First, pay attention to your posture.
Beauty has an upward aura. For example, Liu Shishi is a typical example. Even if she has always painted calm makeup, as long as she stands on the stage, you can immediately feel that she is a big star.
This has a lot to do with her posture. She always straightens her waist, stretches her neck, and stretches her shoulders, so she is generous and has an excellent temperament.
Therefore, we can usually pay attention to keeping our heads high, and by changing our manners, we can release signals of confidence and open up the entire aura.
In addition, you can increase the practice of facial expression management to mobilize your emotions and make your overall appearance more vivid. In Korean trainee training, facial expression management is a very important course.
Then think about Ishihara Rimi’s signature Genki Laugh, is it just “the day after tomorrow’s hard work” came out?
The second point is to manage your outfits.
In many cases, the same style and hot style may not be suitable for you. Think about it, even among celebrities, is there a certain chance of embarrassment in wearing the same style? The problem is that some people really don't fit it.
For another example, everyone likes to learn how to dress with French bloggers. In fact, different French bloggers have different French dresses.
Also a French blogger, Jeanne Damas has a slender upper body. What can magnify her proportions is the deep V floral dress or short sweater.
And Solange Smith is 176cm tall and wears a basic style. A white shirt with tight trousers or shorts and skirts can best show her long legs.
In terms of dressing style, everyone has their own exclusive, you can explore more.
And in the process, you will continue to discover your own advantages, and thus get the call to beauty.
There are similar daily things like painting a new makeup, buying new perfume, making new nails... all these can make you gain real surprises and confidence.
The third point is to believe that "you are a great beauty."
If the first and second points are the fundamental "methodology of changing beauty", then self-confidence is the psychological foundation of all methodology.
With the benign feedback of the shape building rules and psychological hints, it will help you continue to be beautiful.
Dr. V often sees many girls saying on the Internet that they feel low self-esteem because they feel that they are not perfect, have small blemishes on their faces and large pores... Honestly speaking, apart from yourself, in fact, no one is so critical Look at you with a magnifying glass.
Rather than entangled whether you are perfect enough, Dr. V directly suggests that everyone——
Think of yourself as a "beauty".
With this hint, everyone can fundamentally explore their unique self.
Why is Watanabe Naomi able to provide an excellent demonstration for girls with big sizes? It is because she is confident enough; on the premise of self-confidence, she did not hide her fat, but through her clothes and smile, she created a pleasant light weight.
Therefore, he became the most unique Watanabe Naomi in the world.
The true beauty never lies in the "extreme perfection" of local standards, but the "extreme confidence" of the overall atmosphere.
When the aesthetic circles use partial extreme standards to frame women, perhaps the ability to create a confident overall beauty is also the most powerful counterattack weapon for women.
At this time, you don't have to enlarge your inner flaws, and you don't have to worry about that trace of imperfect obsession.
Even if you accept it, you coexist with it, you finally understand it.
"Imperfection" is a unique part of your life.
You are no longer ignorant--
What if we don't have innate appearance advantages, we still have the most precious and beautiful power.
